I used to be an extra sensitive person. My mom used to refer to me as “delicate” and “fragile”.
Growing up with 2 brothers (I have another brother that was born when I was 19, so we didn’t “grow up” together), I have a pretty hard shell, but every once in a while, they would comment on the shape of my face, my weight, my friends…or just anything, and I’d be butthurt.
And, they weren’t even mean!
On the flipside, I was also complimented – a lot. And, to those, I would smile, say thank you and shrink back into my skin. I never really took compliments well.
It wasn’t until I read the book The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz that I understood the value of what people think — about you.
No, that’s not a type. The “0” is intentional.
There is no value in what people say or think about you. Not the good or the bad.
Because we all are a reflection of our own thoughts – and we all live in our own world. The perception that people have of you really has nothing to do with you. It’s a culmination of everyone they know – it’s a comparison.
And, why do they compare? Why do we compare?
To make ourselves feel good. To make ourselves feel whole. To make ourselves feel complete.
So, this is why you really shouldn’t take what anyone says or thinks about you personally – it’s none of your business.
I understand constructive criticism, and I respect it when it is just that. “Constructive” means to “build up”. To criticize means to evaluate and to make a judgment. How does someone build you up by making a judgment about you at the same time?
Why not just go directly to the source (your higher self), be led by your intuition and marvel at your own universal brilliance?
So, the next time someone says to you, “blah…blah…blah” and your name, politely tell them that what they think about you is their business, not yours. It’s quite freeing.