The very first time I took a pole dance class, I wore a big t-shirt and leggings. During class, as the instructor taught beginner moves, I felt clumsy and out of balance. Like a new child learning how to walk, pole just didn’t feel natural to me.
As I looked at some of the women who had been taking the class longer than I had, I noticed that they seemed happier and more in touch with their bodies. Me, on the other hand, felt like I couldn’t get it together.
Then, it happened.
Around the middle of the class, the instructor took us down to the floor to do movement known as “floor work”. When it was my turn for my group to work with the instructor, I remember being on the floor and feeling very free. I felt as if I was supposed to be there at that exact moment, doing the exact move that I had been doing. It felt real and perfect. At that moment, I was alive…and I hadn’t had the feeling of truly being alive in a long time.
As I began to progress through classes, my confidence started to grow. No longer did I feel hindered by extra large t-shirts and leggings. Slowly, I started to wear less and less to class. T-shirts transformed to tank tops and leggings made way for super short shorts. I did struggle to learn new moves, but when I did get them, I felt like a fiery vixen, ready to take on anything and everything in my path.
I realized that through this experience, I began to shed. I shed old beliefs about myself, my sensuality, my sexuality and even my confidence (or lack thereof), which I believed that I had.
I begin to witness my unfolding. Not only was I the audience, I was the actress as well.
I have mentioned in previous posts (and videos) that I am constantly in a state of clearing. Right now, as I’m typing this, I’m thinking about the clearings that I need to do today – clearing out old, stagnated energy that has shown up in my home as clutter, to make way for fresh new energy.
I am reminded of the story of the Phoenix, a mythical bird that constantly rises from the ashes reinvents itself, and repeats the process over and over again.
Letting go of old ways, old stagnated energy is paramount to your success as someone who craves the newness of life. And, if you’re reading this, you are that someone.
Change and growth are partners with one another. You can’t change without growing and you can’t grow without changing.
However, in order to do either one, you have to leave the past behind. How do you leave the past behind?
You write a new story. You won’t forget the past stories, those are ingrained into your memory. But, you don’t have to live by the old story. In fact, if you do, you’ll find yourself living in the past – and not living in the present. The present is a gift. That’s why it’s called the “present”. The present is where all of the good stuff is. It’s where the prize, riches and rewards are. If you find yourself turning back to the past you’ll miss all of the good stuff of the present moment.
How do you write a new story? You write it with your intention. Your intention to change and grow in whatever area you feel as though you need to in life.
In fact, intentionality, rooted from intuition, is one of the most powerful forms of manifestation.
So, letting go of your old ways, or really, anything that you no longer have a use for, can result in some amazing life experiences.
Imagine standing in front of 3 doors holding a bag of trash. Behind each door is something mind-blowingly fantastic created just for you. It could be a life-changing experience, a trip to an exotic location, or your dream home. All you know is that whatever it is, it would result in an impactful journey.
However, you can’t walk through any of those doors unless you put down the bag of trash.
Will you let that bag of trash stop you from walking through the door? Hell no! You would drop that bag and never look back, wouldn’t you?
Well, that bag represents your old ways. When you have a feeling that there is something better out there for you, there probably is. And, in order to experience that “something better”, you set your intention to do so and then you start clearing out the old stuff.
This is why, at Fearless Vixen, Step #2 in the Phase Reinvention Plan is to clear out clutter.
What old ways do you need to clear out in order for something bright, shiny and new to emerge from within you?